…You are wonderful. You are unique. You are loved.
In a culture that constantly shouts lies at us such as “You are not worthy to be loved”; “You don’t measure up”; “If only you do x then…”. and tries to fit everyone into these neat little cookie cutter boxes, the temptation can be strong to feel like we need to change in order to be worthy of love, friendships, and success.
I know that for a lot of people the area they struggle with this is in the realm of romantic relationships (but it also goes for friendships as well). Because they aren’t currently in a relationship (or don’t have many friends) they feel that something is the matter with them, they wonder if they need to do something different. They feel that they fall short of some invisible measurement for being worthy of love.
Let me tell you something.
You don’t need to change yourself for anyone or anything. You are amazing and wonderful the way God made you, and the right people will be drawn to you for that. You are beloved and loved by God Himself. So beloved in fact, that He sent His ONE and only Son to die so that you could have the opportunity to live with Him for eternity. God didn’t say “Once you reach x level of goodness, then salvation is available to you. He loved you before you loved Him. God, the CREATOR of the universe loved you and loved me, even in our depravity.
How can we possibly be effective warriors for Christ if we are constantly doubting how He created us and the path He has put us on? Don’t listen to the lies that say you will only be worthy if you do more, try to be more, or change. You are enough, because God’s grace covers all of your shortcomings. You are wonderful the way you are, because God created you unfathomably unique with a combination of personality traits, talents, and strengths (and yes even faults) unique to you alone. The journey you are on is one that is uniquely your’s; no one else will have the exact same one.
Please don’t get me wrong, change is good, very good. Just think about the changes that take place in a person emotionally and mentally between the ages of 13 and 20. Yeah… don’t know about you, but I’m pretty glad I changed as much as I did. What I’m attempting to emphasis is trying to bring about change in ourselves out of a feeling of insufficiency. We shouldn’t ever feel the need to change because of that. Change should be sought for proactive reasons, not reactive ones, and if (or really when) changes need to take place, God is always faithful to prompt us to that and lead and direct us in the way we need to go.
Don’t stress over it. God’s got your back, and in the mean time, unapologetically embrace who He made you to be, and run with it; always remembering that you “are wonderfully and fearfully made”.
Now go out and be the amazingly, awesome, and unique person God created you to be! Live passionately + fearlessly, love continuously, and have courage.